September 21, 2012

Ace a First Date: For Guys

After my latest string of first dates, I thought it might be time to spell it out for the guys out there. Here are my tips for a great first date:

  1. You pick the location. ~ Make it somewhere convenient for her, but also somewhere you are familiar with. Girls like to learn, so maybe somewhere interactive, or a place where you know "the best cocktail the bartender makes" or "the chef's specialty."
  2. Call (I did not say text!) to confirm the day before. ~ She'll be impressed, trust me. Texting isn't enough for before a first date. She needs to hear you are excited in order to also feel excited.
  3. Open doors. ~ It may seem simple, but you'd be surprised how many times it doesn't happen. Chivalry is not dead, people!
  4. Be romantical (okay that's not a real word, but I love it), without over-doing it. ~ First dates are hard. Especially if it's a blind first date. But make sure it feels like a date, not drinks with a friend. Sit closer to her. Find a way to let your hands or legs "accidentally" brush against hers. If she likes you, she will respond. But don't choose an overly romantic setting or a super expensive restaurant. Only bad can come of it: a) she'll be uncomfortable or b) she'll expect a $200 dinner every time you take her out!
  5. LISTEN. ~ Fucking hell, just try. Make eye contact. Engage. Nod your head. Stop staring at her boobs and wondering what she looks like naked.
  6. Have fun! ~ I love to laugh. If the date is fun, but lacking some of the other nine items I've listed here, I'll most likely give him a second chance date.
  7. PAY. ~ When you're officially a couple, you will spoil each other, but until then...it's your wallet. Don't even put her in the uncomfortable state of wondering if she'll have to pay. And don't let her see the bill. That's douchey.
  8. Offer to walk her to her car. ~ She may or may not say yes, but it's the right thing to do.
  9. If you want to see her again, tell her. ~ If you're too nervous to say it in person as the date is ending, you should definitely include it in your follow-up text. My most recent date had the perfect example of a follow-up text: "Hey, I had a great time last night! [Insert joke referencing something we talked about on the date.]" The joke shows he was LISTENING. Good boy!
  10. Stop it with the three day rule. ~ We hate that shit.

Is it weird that I'm kind of hesitant to post this, knowing some of the guys I've dated will now use my advice to woo other girls? Typical Lindsay.

8 comments:

  1. Can I just say, I love your blog!
    My friend has recently convinced me to let her set up a dating profile for me, and I'm seriously considering starting my own if I get as many interesting stories as you do!
    Either way, I'll definitely still be a reader :)

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    1. If you ever want to guest post anonymously, you are more than welcome! Everyone I talk to has such amazing dating stories!

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  2. You also might mention that if you want to be considered for a second date, and you belong to our family, you might not want to show up wearing a puka shell necklace! It will only disappear.

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  3. Thanks for the tips!
    -clueless in LA

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    1. I hope this is a guy! I'm happy to help :)

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  4. Until a few years ago, #1 & 2 were the normal thing to do. The proliferation of dating websites and social networks means that people are casting a wider net and have a higher volume of dates - so after awhile, they stop making an effort for each and every single one. Which is just stupid.

    I love the cone of shame graphic. In fact, I've had cool guys text me hours or the day after the date and actually say 'I don't believe in the 3-day rule, so I'm texting you now.'

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    1. Thank you! Oliver is happy to have his own meme.

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